โ€˜๐‡๐ž ๐‚๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐Œ๐ž ๐’๐ญ๐ฎ๐›๐›๐จ๐ซ๐งโ€™

We sat in a round table to celebrate him. It was his birthday and I was the master planner. I canโ€™t explain how God created me but if I grow to love someone, I will always rejoice more than you when you are to be celebrated.

My family, friends and acquaintances know me to be their cheer leader. My sister seem to be the direct opposite of me when it comes to situations like that so she has agreed to work my own way especially on her birthdays.

And my husband? He should have grown tired of me by now, the way I celebrate things that he should be the one celebrating marvels him. If you follow me on social media, you would see how I celebrated my husbandโ€™s club (Chelsea), it seemed like I have been supporting Chelsea for years. Lol.

Being an extremist to my loved ones success or success channel(s), I feel hurt when Iโ€™m not treated same.

It was my first year working in that organization and he played a part to my short term success.

The least I could do was to ensure that his birthday was well planned.

When it was time for the celebrant to appreciate all colleagues, he said beautiful things and me the master planner was seated waiting for my own goodwill message cum appreciation.

โ€œVicky is an amazing person but sheโ€™s very stubbornโ€.

Jehovah mi o! I exclaimed impulsively. I stood amazed for about five (5) seconds. You mean these were your thoughts towards me that you could say it before everyone?

I quickly asked Google for help to get the right definition of stubborn just in any case Iโ€™m overthinking. Google always comes through for us.

โ€œHaving or showing dogged determination not to change oneโ€™s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do soโ€.

Definition didnโ€™t seem so bad but why say that about me. I was hurt and wished I reverse the time. I knew I was called stubborn in the past but not now I consciously seek Godโ€™s help to work with people.

My ever smiling face, my gifts to my colleagues all landed me in being called stubborn. Anyways, I decided from that moment to be careful with what I do or say. The more careful I became, the more difficult it was working with my colleagues. My work environment became a daylight nightmare for me and I always looked forward to closing time.

One beautiful afternoon, a discussion was going on and there was a need to move a motion and write to our employer. This was going to benefit everyone but the stories put together were obviously not true.

However, they needed the funds for everyone so we all had to agree. I wasnโ€™t part of the discussions because I was on my Bluetooth but little did they know I could hear them clearly.

A totally different colleague of mine said, โ€œour challenge now would be the lady, Vicky. You know that lady will hardly agree to things like this. She would definitely start telling you biblical principles that doesnโ€™t conform to suchโ€.

They all laughed hysterically. They never spoke to me. They never executed their plans.

For the first time in almost one year, I understood why my colleague called me stubborn on his birthday.

I quickly called my then fiancรฉ now husband to share with him. He was happy I discovered myself.

Workplaces are filled with people of different characters and beliefs. You can be all nice, diligent but yet unpleasing to others.

While feedbacks are important to our growth, be careful who you listen to and what feedback you work on.

๐‘พ๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’–๐’”๐’†๐’… ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’„๐’†๐’“๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•, ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’ƒ๐’ƒ๐’๐’“๐’๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’‚ ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’…๐’†๐’“๐’”๐’‰๐’Š๐’‘ ๐’’๐’–๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‚ ๐’Œ๐’†๐’š ๐’…๐’†๐’•๐’†๐’“๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’‚๐’๐’• ๐’๐’‡ ๐’”๐’–๐’„๐’„๐’†๐’”๐’”. ๐‘ฉ๐’†๐’„๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’ƒ๐’ƒ๐’๐’“๐’ ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’Œ๐’๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’˜๐’‚๐’๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’•๐’†๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’…๐’†๐’„๐’Š๐’”๐’Š๐’—๐’†. ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’†๐’“ ๐’‡๐’๐’„๐’–๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’…๐’๐’๐’†.

Know your stubborn limit through the help of the Holy Spirit.

While we work on ourselves, seek counsel from genuine persons not those who will desire you conform to their standards.

Have you ever been tagged stubborn? Do share with me in the comment section.

Victoria Duru is a medical laboratory scientist and the co-founder of WakaMedics Healthcare Limited, a mobile diagnostic company located at Lagos.